The Misconception of Goals That Causes Your Failure

Half a year has passed, yet you’re still stuck?

You’re a go-getter, but something just feels… wrong. You tried over and over and fail over and over. But you have no idea what’s holding your back. So what happened? Are you so lazy and hesitant? Do you feel demotivated? Well guess what, motivation is overrated! I’ll explain why later.

If you feel lost and is struggling to get on with your goals, it is most likely that you’re not fully aware of these:-

1. NEED vs. DESIRE

Let’s use the most popular examples, “I want to Lose Weight” and “Stop Procrastination”. So you like the idea of being slim and it’s great to be more productive. You want it but it’s not important enough to act upon it. You’ll live, at least for now. So let’s start tomorrow, then next month, ooops, it’s already next year! Guess what, study shows that our subconscious mind only reacts to what we are feeling right now, the PRESENT, not the future. Therefore you need a MOTIVATION that will drive you to ACT NOW not the future, which leads us to the next point.

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2. PATH vs. DESTINATION

Imagine you’re travelling to a place, it’s mostly WHAT YOU DO during the trip that makes it exciting. Right? When you’re thinking too much about getting something, you’ll end up stressing about it. Why not make smaller goals, that will lead to that big goal. when you focus on doing the smaller tasks, you get more satisfaction after achieving it day to day. And before you know it, you’re already an inch away from reaching that star! So what are the exciting things that you can do to lose weight? BUT what if you hate going to the gym? Read on…

3. QUESTION vs. ASSUMPTION

Most of the time, the reason you are stuck is because you’re not asking the RIGHT QUESTIONS. You end up following some fad diets and tips that does not suit your current lifestyle. But trust me, there is always ALTERNATIVES you can explore. Many people only ask the question HOW’s but forget the WHY’s. Once you understand the fundamentals, you can creatively alter your methods to be more fun.

4. SUSTAINABLE vs TEMPORARY

Most of the time when people try to change, they change drastically. You jump to a new diet, you try to jog for 1 hour everyday, expecting to get fast results. But, the mother of all ecosystem doesn’t work that way. Have you ever heard of homeostasis? Homeostasis is a system that maintains the balance in the body. Well, life has homeostasis as well. (Read: Mastery by George Leonard). Our daily habits form an equilibrium for each of us. If you change too fast, too extreme, all the forces will pull you back to square one. It’s normal to feel a little pain/discomfort when you’re changing, but . Unless, if you having a major life events such as moving town, graduating, or getting married, it’s easier to adapt an entirely new lifestyle in a new environment. You can also read more about this from James Clear.